What is NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming?
Most people don’t realize that communication is made of so much more than interactions between people. There exists an entire world of communication within your mind and body. Inner life – your mindset, attitude, and feelings – is an active form of communication.
" The most important communication is not
between people but within people."
Inner communication is a strong suit of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, which was originally known as the study of the structure of subjective experience. This is a fancy way of saying that NLP breaks down what’s going on between your ears so that you can do something constructive with it. Here’s a a little story to illustrate of how it works.
A boy asked his mother, ‘What is NLP?’His mother said ‘I will tell you in a moment, but first you have to do something so you can understand.
See your grandfather over there in his chair?’ ‘Yep,’ said the boy. ‘Go and ask him how his arthritis is today.’ The boy went over to his grandfather. ‘Granddad,’ he said, ‘how’s your arthritis today?’ ‘Oh, it’s a bit bad, son,’ replied the old man. ‘It’s always worse in damp weather. I can hardly move my fingers today.’ A look of pain crossed his face.
The boy went back to his mother. ‘He said it was bad. I think it hurts him. Are you going to tell me what NLP is now?’ ‘In a minute, I promise,’ replied his mother. ‘Now go over and ask Granddad what was the funniest thing you ever did when I was very young.’ The boy went over to his grandfather. ‘Granddad,’ he began, ‘what’s the funniest thing I ever did when I was very young?’
The old man’s face lit up. ‘Oh,’ he smiled, ‘there were lots of things. There was the time when you and your friend played Father Christmas and sprinkled talcum powder all over the bathroom pretending it was snow. I laughed –but I didn’t have to clean it up.’ He stared into the distance with a smile. ‘Then there was the time I took you out for a walk. It was a lovely day and you were singing a nursery rhyme you had just learned. Loudly. A man went past and gave you a nasty look.
He thought you were being too noisy. He asked me to tell you to be quite. You turned around and said to him, “If you don’t like me singing, you can go and boil your head.” And carried on even louder… ‘The old man chuckled. The boywent back to his mother. ‘Did you hear what Granddad said?’ he asked. ‘Yes,’ his mother replied.
‘You changed how he felt with a few words. That’s NLP
The above story certainly simplifies the concept of NLP – if you wan to learn more just click on the link below.